When I started writing this, it was to fill a gap. I wasn't seeing what I wanted to see in terms of critical writing about the kink community. I hadn't read
Clarisse Thorn yet. (Can I link to her in every post? Probably!) Until two days ago, I hadn't read
Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed or listened to its creator's podcast,
Kink on Tap. I'm not sure why I didn't listen to it before, except that I think I confused it with a different podcast that I tried and didn't like. I didn't give the blog a chance, in spite of the fact that everyone, everyone, everyone links to it, because I saw the name, and assumed that it would be about someone having all kinds of sexy sex in unexamined ways, and isn't the Master/Mistress of my passion an actual demigod? I was completely wrong. I feel like I should apologize to someone, and maybe I should apologize to myself for denying myself the
absolute fucking thrill of reading posts like
this incredible diatribe against the kink community.
[T]here is a fallacy, a lie, a self-protective disgusting self-consolement that the sex communities tell themselves to comfort themselves and hide their own massively, outrageously discriminatory practices[…]. And that lie is that those people simply “didn’t find the right space for them,” “wouldn’t fit in here anyway,” or some such bullshit. […S]ex communities do a fucking piss poor job of making it okay to want those things, and that in fact, sex communities are mostly filled with self-contented, complacent, lazy people whose actions make it clear they care more about getting their own lay than making it possible for other people to connect to them, or with others.
Miranda and I read it and gawked for a bit. I waved my arms around expressively. It feels
so good to read that, we agreed.
So, go read it. I'm probably going to go comment on it.
:)
ReplyDeleteI saw the name, and assumed that it would be about someone having all kinds of sexy sex in unexamined ways, and isn't the Master/Mistress of my passion an actual demigod?
I hate those kinds of blogs, too.
I'm so flattered!
ReplyDeleteAw! You folks give me so much joy.
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